The Law of Paradoxical Intent

by Preston Squire



The Problem



I was talking to a friend and she's big on The Secret
and The Law of Attraction. She uses visualization daily, has a vision board, does everything she should be doing, at least according to the movie, and yet, she lacks the results she wants.

This does not surprise me for as well and good as 'The Secret' is, and it IS well and good, it is not the full story. It's more like an introduction than a complete answer in itself. In fact, there's so much missing they could, should, and probably will one day make 'The Secret 2'.

Watching that movie (or reading the book) gives you the impression of mere wish fulfillment. Just visualize what you want and the universe will give it to you. Are they wrong? Not really, but there's more to it than that.
Giving it your 'All'



 "You don't get what you want... You get what you ARE."   - James Allen
 

The Universe (God) does not respond to merely our thoughts, it responds to our essence. Our entire aura. Our field of vibration. In other words, it's not good enough to merely desire something and visualize it, if we are not in accordance with that happening.

For example: Let's say you want more money (who doesn't?), all the visualization in the world won't help you if you have some deep seated resentment to being rich. Perhaps when you were young someone impressed on you that the only way to be rich was to screw over everyone else. So you associated being rich with being a bad person. You don't want to be a bad person, so your subconscious mind is actively fighting your conscious desire and blocking you.

I touch more on that concept here.

Another possible blockage is if your reasons for wanting your goals are based in fear or lack.


The Law of Paradoxical Intent


According to The Law of Attraction, whatever you consistantly, passionately envision, the universe, God, will try to provide. "Ask and it shall be given."

This works via The Law of Vibration. Everything in the universe vibrates. We are all, as is everything in existence, comprised of energy. Whatever thoughts, visions and beliefs we consistantly hold affects our energy field or our frequency. Our frequency is constantly being transmitted to the world around us and the universe, God, responds to that frequency. It tries to match it.

Therefore if he consistantly see ourselves as successful, we 'attract' success. The universe is harmonizing with our consistant vibration.

Human's however are not such simple constructs. We hold a wealth of subconcious paradigms, most of which we're not even consciously aware of, which acts as filters to everything we experience and believe. These impact our frequencies. That's not a problem if they are in line with our desires but often they are opposed. So you end up with two competing frequencies that cancel each other out.


How We Defeat Ourselves


Let's look at love. Everyone wants to be in love. Love is a great and positive emotion. It generates a wonderful frequency the Universe is only too happy to match. But WHY are you seeking love? What is the underlying reason? For many people, it is a subconscious feeling of Lack. Lack is a completely different frequency than Love.

For example, you may feel that you need someone to 'complete you'. Sounds okay but flip it around, that's saying without having someone else in your life you cannot be a complete person. Many seek a partner to validate them. They need someone to reassure them of their own worth. In both cases, these people are afraid to be alone because they feel incapable of being self-fulfilled. Their desire for Love is actually fueled by Fear and Lack.

So they use the Law of Attraction, consciously or unconsciously to find a partner but the fear and lack in their energy fields is nullifying the projection of Love. They may find someone, but they will attract like people. People who match their own vibration. This is why people with poor self-esteem continually date people who are bad for them. They are attracting a match to their own self image. Even when they find someone who is positive, they tend to self-destruct those relationships, convincing themselves they are somehow bad and go back to unhealthy relationships.
Similarly, if your desire for Love is rooted in a fear of always being alone you're going to be stonewalling yourself. What's worse is you may be consciously projecting Love coming into your life and while positive frequencies outweigh negative ones, if your subconscious mind is projecting a fear of being alone, that's likely going to win over because you're subconscious mind never takes a break. It's adding to your frequency 24/7.

I could write a book about this but an excellent one already exists: Secrets of Attraction by Sandra Anne Taylor.

Lack and love and two basic filters through which we interpret most of our life experiences. Lack is fear-based and projects a consciousness filled with need and longing. An attitude of lack dismisses the present value. Love, on the other hand, is the emotion of appreciation. An attitude of not not only sees the present value, but actively seeks it out in everyday life.  - Sandra Anne Taylor

This same principal holds for all other desires as well. If you want money because of a fear of lack you are blocking the Law of Attraction from working. If you want health because you fear illness or becoming infirmed in your old age, it's the same thing again.





Uproot those weeds of lack.



Learn to love yourself. You don't need anyone to complete you. You are a complete and wonderful person already. Just look to share the beauty of your life.


Be grateful for what you have. Live in an attitude of gratitude. Be grateful for what you can do now, for the pocessions you have now, for the money you can give to others now. Behind in your bills? Don't worry about it. Accept it for what it is, a reflection of your past vibrations. Deal with it but don't dwell on it. Be grateful that the past doesn't equal the future and be grateful for the new opportunities and inspirations that are coming your way. Be grateful that soon you'll have money to help not only yourself but your family and friends.

Act in accordence to your desires. If you want to make the world a better place, what are you doing, now at this moment, to make this world a better place? If your doing nothing, waiting for X to happen before you start to make a difference, then what is that saying about you? What are you projecting in your current frequency? Indifference? Fear you can't do anything? You have to want it so bad that not doing something now, anything at all no matter how small, isn't conceivable to you. You have to act and be grateful for the ability to do even the little you are but desire to do so much more.

THAT's the kind of desire that the universe rushes forward to meet. One of pure intent.

©Preston Squire